The Wednesday Wedding • It’s the “hands down” “no contest” wedding. It’s the “Babe Ruth Louisville Slugger Grand Slam of Weddings! in ways that matter most.”
The single best approach which exists here, and just about anywhere else, to have a more meaningful, more gleeful and less costly wedding, is to have your wedding day on a Wednesday, and you will see why below.
Agreed, that may on the surface sound counter-intuitive, or out of the box, because us humans are such creatures of habit. Not a bad thing or how else would we know how to tie our shoelaces. However, It it is far from a funny, amusing, slightly odd or peculiar notion, and in fact makes great good logical sense even for those among us that are more square than round. While that may seem unique and innovative, in fact it is simply rediscovering the obvious.
Why? It’s a question we’ve asked ourselves and here are the answers we found.
The Gratitude Factor • Gratitude is in part defined as the quality of being thankful for what one has, is given or receives; often it a readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Gratitude, thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation, is a spirit, feeling or attitude in acknowledgment of a gift or spiritual gift that one has received. The experience of gratitude has historically been a focus of several world religions, and has been considered extensively by moral philosophers. For numerous reasons, many of which we do not fully understand, The Wednesday Wedding has a much greater tendency to generate a grateful celebration. Perhaps it due to some of the factors below.
The Spiritual Factor • Whether we realize it or not, religious or not, weddings are above all spiritual events. Many would say they are second only to giving birth to a child as a spiritual event. While our philosophy is based closely on Chopin’s notions of simplicity, We take that all that very seriously in ways that matter. We are all more likely inclined to be more in tune to our spirits in the midst of a pause.
The Human Factor • It’s safe to say that all humans need a break from time to time. It takes great effort, knowledge, spiritual sophistication and practice to make things easy on one’s self and others, and truth be told most of us are not there yet. We struggle, each in our own ways. It is highly likely that everyone will be healthier in mind, body and spirit, will be more rested, cheerful, fresher everywhere in the Wednesday Wedding equation. That is true of everyone participating, and producing your wedding including us. We don’t know yet how you feel about it, but on our end we will not pretend otherwise, for us Wednesday Weddings are a Godsend and we will assure we make it worth your while.
The Playing Hooky Factor • Who among us has not played hooky at school or work, and who among us does not remember that gleeful excitement, recess, pause, respite and solace. “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” ~ Ferris Bueller
The Glee Factor • Glee tends to flow much more naturally when you are in the midst of an unexpected gift of “Pause”, when you make the time to smell the roses, honor and hug the elderly, and the children, when you allow yourself the time to stop, look and listen, when you commune with people rather than devices, When you disconnect to reconnect. When you have time to look at people and the eye and express love. Such moments are as precious as they are rare. What better time than a wedding, a gathering of the tribe, to bask in Glee.
The Unforgettable Factor • Besides all of the above, and all of the below, and because us humans, You, your spouse, parents, family and friends are highly unlikely to have attended before or attend in the future a wedding on Wednesday, that your wedding become unforgettable is inevitable and in many good ways.
The Rest & Relaxation Factor • It may in fact be quasi impossible to stay at the Mast Farm Inn and not get a healthy helping of rest and relaxation. Because of the nature of our area, the nature of nature, the nature of time, human habits, and customs, you can multiply an already impressive feast of rest and relaxation by a factor of two on Tuesdays and Wednesdays at The Mast Farm Inn. What better time to relax and enjoy your time and your people than a wedding.
The Peace Factor • What greater gift can you provide your guests than the gift of peace.
The Cost Factor • In travel, events, hospitality, lodging, food and services just about everything will be significantly less costly on Tuesday and Wednesday than any other times and you will receive the same or more for much less. “Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.” ~ Scottish Proverb. In other words less is not less, au-contraire. Less is more.
The I can’t get out of work or take the kids out of school factor • That’s a judgment call. Or is it? I think we can all agree that we can take the time and make the time for the important and significant people and things we care about most once or twice a year. In fact scientific studies too numerous to mention show the benefits of doing just that. We are quite diligent ourselves, but probably no one needs to be 100% diligent 100% of the time, that last 1% is tough. Three extra days invested in your health and spirit out of 365 = 99.1781% diligence minus 00.8219% getting in touch with your inner Ferris Bueller.
The Good News Factor • One could also say that Wednesday weddings could tend to filter out social relationships less fundamental and increase intimacy. Only slightly in jest, for sure that also has cost benefits to every one because each extra wedding guest adds from $91 to $630 to the cost of the wedding depending on how down-home or high-brow. On average each extra couple will cost the wedding host about $550, and spend about $650 of their own in travel, attire, lodging and dining. One could also see how this could give courtesy invitation folks, or those who may not be able to afford travel, the graceful out they might want or need :-) The fine art and Zen of wedding diplomacy in full bloom. You need a sense of humor if you intend to get and stay married. And most assuredly so if you intend to have children.
The Service Factor • It’s no secret that everyone in the hospitality and food sectors get “wound up tense” on Thursday as they prepare to ramp up for the weekend, and they are wiped out by Sunday, after a grueling 3 day marathon where Murphy’s Law is more norm than exception. That will be the case for everyone involved from the baker to the chefs to the wait staff to the photographers. While that can be mitigated to some degree by bringing in fresh troops, we humans are creatures of habit. It is equally true that by Tuesday morning everyone is rested and back in fighting trim. The numerous subtle positive benefits for your wedding cannot be overstated, and in every way but costs, as Aristotle said “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”
The Superstition Factor • In early U.S. history, Wednesday was the luckiest day for weddings. Friday was avoided as the “hangman’s day.” Rural Country Wedding Bonus: “A Spider On Your Wedding Dress” Finding an eight-legged creature on your gorgeous gown might seem like a wedding-day nightmare, but English lore claims that finding a spider in your wedding dress is a good omen.
The Historical Factor • In English tradition, Wednesday is considered the “best day” to marry.
The Popular Wisdom Factor • Wednesday weddings were so popular and common in the past they generated sayings and proverbs. In fact so much so that a popular saying emerged “Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday best of all, Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses, Saturday for no luck at all.” Sunday used to be a popular wedding day; it was the one day most people were free from work. Puritans in the seventeenth century put a stop to this, believing it was improper to be festive on the Sabbath.
The Gift Factor • As a bride, groom, parents of the bride and groom, wedding hosts, what greater gift can you provide your guests than the gift of all of the above plus a candle. “How far that little candle throws his beams! So shines a good deed in a weary world.” ~ William Shakespeare. While material things are nice, spiritual things are better. “Make Your Own History” at The Mast Farm Inn.
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~ Melody Beattie
“Simplicity is the final achievement. After one has played a vast quantity of notes and more notes, it is simplicity that emerges as the crowning reward of art.” ~ Frederic Chopin
The Mast Farm Inn Gratitude Factor • When we say above “We take all this very seriously in ways that matter.” It is because of how authentically grateful we are to host your wedding. We recognize that your wedding, religious or not, is a spiritual event and possibly the most momentous event of your life, and we are sincerely honored to be allowed the opportunity to participate. We, like all human beings, prefer most doing things that have significance and meaning. “The one thing all humans have in common is that each of us wants to be happy, says Brother David Steindl-Rast, a Benedictine monk and interfaith scholar. And happiness, he suggests, is born from gratitude. An inspiring lesson in slowing down, looking where you’re going, and above all, being grateful.” And we are. We hope you will accept our small gift to you in thanks for reading this page. Click Here